tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post3682522614469439787..comments2022-03-26T06:34:37.113-07:00Comments on <a href="http://adultadopteesupport.org">Adult Adoptee Support Collaborative</a>: Support For SomeAdult Adoptee Support Collaborativehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12481966831254156644noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-42638609457388753482018-10-02T21:27:51.720-07:002018-10-02T21:27:51.720-07:00I too had the narscistic motherI too had the narscistic motherBlack sheephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15167674077645064647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-73900183112479727652017-12-20T08:51:02.047-08:002017-12-20T08:51:02.047-08:00We are looking forward to having you! I'm gla...We are looking forward to having you! I'm glad your wife is understanding. It is hard to comprehend if you were not relinquished. The disconnect between the common view of adoption and what is experienced in your head causes even more problems. Adult Adoptee Support Collaborativehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481966831254156644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-73018010188689255192017-12-20T06:47:32.873-08:002017-12-20T06:47:32.873-08:00For years, my second wife could not understand why...For years, my second wife could not understand why I kept talking about the pain I felt deep inside, and where it came from. Although adopted, counselors had been convinced - and convinced me - that it was the result of childhood trauma/PTSD/chemical imbalance/etc.etc. My official search began at the conclusion of my first marriage around 1991 (oddly enough, when Dr. Verrier's book came out). After a two hour INTENSE wailing session over the primal pain, the adoption subject was placed back in its cocoon, too intense to be addressed. Again and again the effects reared their damaging heads, affecting my life, my loves, and my self-worth.<br /> Finally, on December 16th, my wife took a chance, and asked me, "WITHOUT THINKING, tell me where the pain comes from." Out blurted "My adoption."<br /> Last night I started reading "Primal Wound", and, like the 70s Roberta Flack song, I see me on each page and in each passage.<br /> I've already cried, frowned, smiled, and sighed into my hands more than I can count. My wife has changed my birthday to December 16th (I am now born again again again!).<br /> I hope to be a very active member of this group, and hope to find - and give - the support so needed for the relinquished ones.medbahrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01359393523346269177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-31441064966930940472017-11-20T11:09:56.011-08:002017-11-20T11:09:56.011-08:00Please do. Reunion has a way of making one examin...Please do. Reunion has a way of making one examine the primal wound weather they like to or not. But pretending your first chapter doesn't exist is very detrimental to an adoptee. Adult Adoptee Support Collaborativehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481966831254156644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-84859065444865315212017-11-20T10:31:02.259-08:002017-11-20T10:31:02.259-08:00I think my son is just now discovering that reunio...I think my son is just now discovering that reunion will not heal the original pain.I am going to send him the Primal Wound and the link to this group.Thank you for honest thoughts.Much love to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02924050002253867451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-69734352750240548892017-10-09T20:25:19.087-07:002017-10-09T20:25:19.087-07:00Karen, please join our support forum at http://adu...Karen, please join our support forum at http://adultadopteesupport.freeforums.net/forum to get support from fellow adoptees.Adult Adoptee Support Collaborativehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481966831254156644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-56669205167984022762017-10-09T15:46:09.230-07:002017-10-09T15:46:09.230-07:00Hi Karen,
It is often overwhelming, especially at...Hi Karen, <br />It is often overwhelming, especially at first. With time things can change. Many of us despite the difficulties are glad to finally know our truth. <br />I hope you join us in the forum section where there is a lot more discussion. Kalcyonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02398663897762708658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213482600723478644.post-30561658761698291032017-10-09T14:29:09.263-07:002017-10-09T14:29:09.263-07:00Thank you for your honesty.I just found my birth m...Thank you for your honesty.I just found my birth mother; rather unexpectedly. I did a DNA test with Ancestry and was convinced to hire a genealogist. Within 6 days, I found my mother! It was something I had fantasized about all my life,yet I was still caught off guard. It's been a roller coaster ride, to say the least. Right now, I wish I'd never met her. She's a wonderful person, but I feel nothing for her and I am BEYOND overwhelmed. My adoptive mother,97 years old, cannot handle this and we don't discuss my birth mother at all. I feel abandoned...AGAIN!Karen R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18009433619673631487noreply@blogger.com